When it was the first time your beloved child started talking, he/she would not express himself/herself clearly for all matters. They have a special way to express themselves. They may fling hands or legs or make different gestures to make you understand their feelings or needs. Sometimes, babies do not get angry willingly. They do it being helpless. Do you think your baby is too much angry? Do not worry. The same thing is prevalent in all households that have a baby.

Let’s see how you can control your baby’s anger or make him stay calm.

What happened, sweetheart?

Suppose, your child waged a warlike situation a little while ago. If you start interrogating him/her right now, he/she will not pay heed to you, and instead, he/she will look to raise another storm. Would you stay calm if you were treated like the same? Of course, you would not. Be calm and quiet while talking to your little baby who is angry now. Ask him/her these questions, “Tell me darling, why are you so angry? Do you think I don’t listen to you?” Use soft words and the like putting aside any of your angry tones. Try to make your baby understand just the way you would with an adult person.

Cool, baby!

Remember, your child’s anger is much like a nuclear bomb. So, handle it with caution. If your baby hits another child, make him/her calm first and then, ask “Would you feel good if anybody would bite you?” You may ask these or similar questions, “Suppose, somebody has beaten your elder brother, and he would start crying form pain. Would you feel good seeing this?”

Playing angry:

When you are at your wit’s ends to calm your baby, you can start playing angry. Ask him/her, “Darling, what would you like to do when you are angry?” After hearing from him/her, you show your list of actions triggered by anger. Now, you can start playing angry with your child reversing your actions to your child’s and ask him/her to do the same. Of course, your list would not contain anything that hurts your beloved child.

Dear baby:

Try to speak to your child as much as you can. Do not forget to praise him/her on seeing any good action taken. Sure, the baby does not always cause disturbance to the house. He/she does good works too. If your baby screams when you are talking over phone, and the baby stops upon your gestures, praise him/her saying, “Wow, my sweet baby is so gentle, so nice!” In addition, use more gentle and positive remarks upon his/her good deeds.

Let’s think:

You can teach your child how to be calm by saying, “When you’re angry, just close your eyes and take a deep breath and think about the taste of your favorite food.”

Teach the sense of equal feelings:

You should attempt to make your baby understand that some actions from his/her might hurt you. Suppose, the child next door calls your baby an ass, and your little one starts pinching him/her. At one point of time, that baby stops calling that, but your baby still pinches that child. In these circumstances, you can warn his/her saying that you would not talk to him/her if he/she does the same thing again. This way, your baby will get to understand that his/her misdeeds hurt you as well.

Disallow violent games and TV series:

Do not let your child get habituated to watch violent TV series or games that induce your little one to fighting and crime or violence. Suppose, your child has become a great fan of Spider-Man, he/she will start behaving like the superhero depicted on screen. Make your child fond of educative games and shows.

Avoid pampering:

Your dear child might have pinched the baby next door or one of his/her classmates. You might think he/she is too little to understand about such behaviors. Gradually, you might have to see your child hit another baby violently leaving him/her seriously injured. Will you think the same this time? Do not pamper your little baby on seeing him/her doing a misdeed. Make him/her understand what is right and what not.

Do not yell at your child:

You may find your child has raised hue and cry. It might happen that you have yelled at your child telling him or her to stop and found that he/she has again started screaming only at a higher voice. So, never yell at your baby while telling him to do anything.

Are you making your baby stubborn?

If you shout at the housemaid at your house and throw something at her in front of your baby, you do not know what you have done. You just taught your baby a practical lesson, “Mother gets angry and characterizes her anger.” The baby has also learnt how to be rude or naughty. So, avoid such behaviors within or outside your home, especially in front of your little one.

Bonus tips: Only for you!

After reading everything, you can now go, pick up the phone to call your mother and ask her, “Would I cause you too much disturbance and aggression when I was a child?” Your mother would perhaps say, “No, you were calm and it were the children next door who were more disturbing.” Believe it or not; you did not do anything less than your baby.

The only difference is that your mother did not have access to guidelines to keep a baby calm, but you have. What she did is spend as much time with you as she could. It is better for you to follow the same. Keep well. Best wishes for your child.

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